So there are many of you out there in internet land who are amazing, kind people. And I want to be the person to remind you just keep on keeping on. You don’t have to do anything special; rather, continue to lend an ear, send an email, initiate a 5 minute phone call, make change for a dollar, whatever it is that you do almost without thinking about it.
A mostly online friend who I made EONS ago (comparatively – 2004?ish) reminded me yesterday that I had helped her in the first few frantic postpartum weeks, as her unexpected early delivery and NICU time had apparently rendered her unable to use the Internet to figure out how to pump and then how to transition to regular breastfeeding.
I didn’t remember a thing. I could probably check my email from back then (see? never trash anything!); I probably directed her to LLL and Kellymom and said encouraging things. This was more than 7 years ago, when our second graders (?!) were newborns.
This reminded me that I had my own “knock-down, get up again” experiences where people helped me, and it was “small” for them, but at the time was everything for me. The friend who slept over in my hospital room after I gave birth to Miss M and helped me latch her on every 2 hours. The friend who washed a load of our clothes after we made aliyah and didn’t have our own machine. Do these people remember? Probably not, or only vaguely. I mean, one night — nine and a half years ago! One load of clothes — in 2009! Easy!
But these things were precisely, 100% what I needed at that moment to bring me back from the ledge, to help me over the hurdle, to move me to my next challenge.
We all have the potential to be the helping hand, just by being ourselves, by extending approximately half an inch. Give the ride, loan the pen, make the introduction. Keep being incredible.